Episode 24

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Published on:

6th May 2026

She’s Not Crazy… It’s Hormones | Why Men Misread Communication in Menopause

What if your relationship struggles aren’t a communication problem… but a biology problem?

You’re trying to communicate clearly.

He’s taking it the wrong way.

Getting defensive.

Shutting down.

Or acting like you’re overreacting.

And you’re sitting there thinking…

“How is this still so hard?”

But what if it was never just communication to begin with?

What if it’s hormones—and he doesn’t understand them?

In this episode of Menopause Love Lounge, we’re joined by Harry Kloser-Pitcher—relationship educator and founder of She’s Not Crazy, a biology-based relationship education platform that’s reached over 30 million views.

And this conversation shifts the lens: maybe the problem isn’t what’s being said; maybe it’s what’s happening in the body

In this episode:

– why communication can break down even when you’re both trying

– how hormones impact sensitivity, safety, and emotional reactions

– why men take things personally when they don’t understand what’s going on underneath

– the difference between vulnerability… and collapse (and why that matters for attraction)

– what actually helps communication improve in midlife relationships

This isn’t about blaming men. And it’s not about excusing behavior.

It’s about understanding what’s underneath it. Because when hormones are misunderstood...communication gets messy… fast.

But when they’re understood? Things soften. Reactions make more sense. And connection feels possible again.

If you’ve ever thought:

“Why does he keep misunderstanding me?” or "Why does this feel so much harder than it should?”

This episode will land.

Send this to the man in your life.

Not as proof he’s wrong…but as a way to help him understand what you’ve been feeling.

Timestamp

00:00 Why communication still isn’t working

02:15 Meet Harry Kloser-Pitcher

05:10 It’s not communication—it’s biology

09:30 How hormones impact emotional reactions

14:45 Why men take things personally

19:20 Nervous system and feeling safe in relationships

24:10 Vulnerability vs emotional collapse

28:40 Why menopause changes relationship dynamics

33:15 What actually improves communication

38:00 Final takeaways and how to shift your relationship

🔗 Links & Resources

😴 Try MenoSleep: Buy it here

👉 Learn more at www.shesnotcrazy.co.uk for a free Female Cycle Chart and a 7-day email series for men.

Harry’s upcoming book, She’s Not Crazy: Welcome to the Relationship Dojo, is expected in September 2026.

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About the Podcast

Menopause Love Lounge
Redefining Intimacy, Identity & Relationships
Menopause Love Lounge is a menopause podcast for women in midlife who feel misunderstood, dismissed, and quietly blamed—and know that what they’re experiencing deserves more than surface-level answers.
Menopause isn’t just a hormonal transition. It’s happening inside a culture that profits from women feeling broken, depleted, and “behind”—offering quick fixes that keep us disconnected from our bodies, our relationships, and each other.
Six women talk honestly about sex after menopause, intimacy, menopause-related anxiety, emotional burnout, identity shifts, nervous system overload, boundaries, self-trust, changing relationships, and the quiet loneliness that so often defines midlife.
Many women reach this season having pulled back from female friendships—not because they don’t value them, but because years of comparison, fear of judgment, and emotional self-protection made closeness feel risky. We name that honestly, and we talk about what it takes to rebuild connection in ways that feel safe, real, and nourishing again.
Six hosts matter because no single woman gets to be the answer. This isn’t single-voice authority—it’s real women thinking together, questioning out loud, and letting complexity be honest.

This isn’t another podcast telling you what to buy, fix, or optimize.

It’s a place to slow down, tell the truth, and remember that what you’re feeling makes sense.

Welcome to the lounge.

(Hosted by Andrea Knoche, Ozzie Osborne, Dawn Wiggins, Karen Viesta, Junie Moon, and Laurie Gerber.)
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Andrea Knoche

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Podcast host and on-air personality, Andrea is the creator of Menopause Love Lounge and host of From Mrs. to Ms. She’s passionate about honest, unfiltered conversations around reinvention in midlife, and also around menopause and the impact it has on relationships, identity, and intimacy.

Ozzie Osborne

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Ozzie Osborne is a love and relationship coach grounded in attachment science and nervous system regulation. She works with individuals and couples to uncover the patterns shaping their relationships, move out of reactive cycles, and build secure, connected partnerships.

Laurie Gerber

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Laurie is a love and dating coach, the host of the podcast Love at Any Age, and creator of the course Master the Art of Love. She helps women get radically honest about what they want, break unhealthy patterns, and create deeply fulfilling relationships with confidence and clarity.

Junie Moon

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Love coach and shadow work expert, Junie helps women break lifelong patterns, heal emotional blocks, and reconnect with their true selves. She guides women in midlife to create deeper, more aligned relationships rooted in self-worth, authenticity, and emotional freedom.

Karen Viesta

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Midlife influencer and wellness coach, Karen Viesta helps women feel more energized, confident, and turned on by life. She shares what actually works to look better, feel better, and make midlife your most vibrant and powerful chapter yet!

Dawn Wiggins

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Dawn Wiggins is a licensed marriage and family therapist, homeopath, and host of Dear Divorce Diary. She helps women untangle divorce, hormones, heartbreak, and midlife identity shifts with sharp insight, nervous system healing, and deep emotional discernment. She’s known for saying the thing everyone is thinking—but may make us blush.